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Another Perspective on Parents and Childrens

When Parents Become More Like Friends to Their Children than Who They Really Need to Be

 

Being a Christian parent can be extremely hard. Sometimes life will breeze by but there are so many times when you have got to be the hard-nosed parent which will almost make you feel hated by your child. When parents feel like their child is pushing them away because they feel they are being unfair, this might cause a parent (or both) to step back and give in to their child’s wishes.

 

What Happens to Children When a Parent Steps Out of the Authoritative Role?

 

When children begin to see that their parents have started being more like a friend to them, they will change too. At first, it will feel like everything is grand and going great, but things will change whether you notice it at first or not. Your child will start taking advantage of you and your kindness. If you say no to anything after they have heard a yes for everything, you will probably see your child throw a tantrum as a friend-only parent will bring up spoiled children. You will notice that a child that doesn’t have an authority figure in their lives will begin to take their spoiled attitude to the outside world. They will expect others to give to them the way their parents do and will have a bad attitude if they are told any different.

 

Your child will begin to expect everything and in return they will not feel as though they have to give anything. You can forget about being able to control them after a while of living under no rules because they will set their own rules. They will not take a second thought about breaking any rules because to them, they will feel as though rules do not apply to them.

 

There is a Time for Both Characteristics: Parent & Friend

 

Both of these roles are important to bringing up a well-rounded Christian child. Just because you have to put your foot down on certain things, does mean there cannot be time for fun, games, and bonding. Children, whether they like it or not, whether they know it or not, really need authority. They need to learn how to obey parents and to understand that there are consequences to disobedience. If they do not learn it while they are young, the will have a hard life when they are older.

 

Spend time with your children, making them feel important, but make sure they understand they are the kids and you are the boss. There should be as much quality time spend with your children as possible. This will create a family bond that is unbreakable. They will see the fun side of you and will feel the love you have for them.

 

When you do have to discipline your child they may not like it and their attitude may say they hate you (if they do not say it out loud in the heat of their emotions), they will respect you. The respect show instantly, but it will. Children who have a structured home with rules and consequences do better in society when they are adults. Remember always to explain why you are disciplining your child before you do it and afterwards too. Once they have a chance to calm down ask them why they were disciplined and what they did in order to have to be disciplined. Making sure they understand will help them see what they did wrong so that hopefully they will not do it again. Also, make sure to reassure them that you love them and explain why you have to discipline them for that type of disobedience. Helping them understand why you are doing what you do will help them understand that you are not doing it because you dislike them, but because you love them.

 

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When Parents Stop Being Parents

The role of a parent couldn’t be more important. It’s their job to discipline their child, fill them with self confidence, and put them on the right path to becoming a good person.

As there is no blueprint to being a good parent, many decide to do it their own way. While some do amazing jobs, others fall into common traps. One of those traps is becoming a friend to your child, rather than remaining as their parent.

While this may seem like a nice thing to do, especially as doing this helps you bond closely, it actually does your child more harm than good. Here’s why.

Your Child Needs to Learn About Authority

Children have many negative influences around them, which is why they need somebody to be firm with them in order to keep them in line. Peer pressure may be responsible for them doing something they wouldn’t do otherwise, meaning a child needs to know there’s punishment involved whenever they cross a line.

Friends Don’t Discipline Each Other

When your child steps out of line, he or she will need to be disciplined. How you discipline your child is up to you, but what should remain consistent among all parents is that some form of discipline takes place.

When you put yourself on the same level as your child, you become their equal, not their guardian. It can be extremely hard to discipline them in this situation, meaning you face an awkward experience yourself if you want to do the right thing.

Your Child Needs to Grow

A child-parent bond can never be broken. But just because it’s extremely powerful, it doesn’t mean that it’s all your child needs.

He or she should seek out other fulfilling relationships, with friends, and when older, with lovers. These people should be who your child shares their hopes and dreams with, which is the healthy thing for any young person to do.

Your Child Needs to Make Their Own Mistakes

If your child listens attentively to every word you say, their emotional growth is going to be stunted. Part of life at a young age is making mistakes. While you don’t want your child to go off into the deep end, you do want them to experience what it is to fail at something. This teaches them maturity, and will help them develop their own moral compass. Your goal isn’t to protect your child until they become an adult, it’s to help them grow into a fine young man or woman.

Traditional Roles

As traditional roles blur in our modern society, it’s even more tempting to become a friend to your child. Know that your child doesn’t need friends, though. They almost certainly have plenty.

What they do need is a parent. They only have two of those, and will never have others. So play the role of parent to your child. It will allow each of you to do the job for each other that God intended you to do.

Some Bible verses to live by-

Proverbs 22:6– Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Exodus 20:12– Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.

Ephesians 6:4– Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Proverbs 13:24– Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.

Hebrews 12:7-11– It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.

There are many more Bible verses that could be added to the above, but my point is we must love our children  in spite of  their ups and downs. Remember that long ago, you were  your parents  joy and sometimes nightmare.

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The Fire and Heat from Hell

Recently I posted a question and even offered a free gift from www.edreamright.com to the first person who could answer the question, IS THE HEAT AND FIRE FROM THE VOLCANOES, AND HOT SPRINGS THAT ARE COMING FROM THE OCEANS, BE COMING FROM THE PIT OF HELL? And I asked that whoever answered, to give Bible verses to back up their answer. Surprisingly, no one answered the question. After doing my own research, I found some interesting verses and even discussions from scientists. These answered were taken from two sources- Liberty Gospel Tracts, questions and answers and a post by Samuel M Wanginjogu, Do Heaven and Hell exist.

An interesting verse is Isaiah 5:14, which says, “Therefore HELL HATH ENLARGED HERSELF, and opened her mouth without measure: and their glory, and their multitude, and their pomp, and he that rejoiceth, shall descend into it.”   Among scientists, there is much discussion as to whether the earth is expanding. Some say that in the oceans, new volcanic material keeps being added along faults in the crust, expanding it little by little.  I am not a scientist, and realize that much of what is called science, is not true at all.  1 Timothy 6:20, 21 says, “O Timothy, keep that which is committed to thy trust, avoiding profane and vain babblings, and OPPOSITIONS OF SCIENCE FALSELY SO CALLED:   Which some professing have erred concerning the faith. Grace be with thee. Amen.”

STRANGE WORMS CALLED RIFTIA DISCOVERED BY SCIENTISTS

There are strange giant tube worms that were discovered by scientists just recently. These worms are unique in that they are capable of surviving in total darkness, do not eat, can live in extremely hot temperatures below the surface of the earth and can survive in an environment full of sulfur(in fact sulfur is their source of livelihood), the chemical that fuels fire in hell according to the bible. All these characteristics are found in hell.

The scientist discovered the worms under the sea around hydrothermal vents, which are rather like small volcanoes occurring under the sea.

So the question is could riftia worms be the ones found in hell? The verdict is yours.

According to the last paragraph of this article, hydrotherms are temporarily in nature. Old ones die and new ones appear and wherever they appear, so do these giant tube worms. Hydrotherms are also found hundreds of miles apart and this may mean that the worms cannot move from one hydrothermal vent to another. What this might imply is that the worms come from deep inside the earth from where they are brought forth to the floor of the ocean by the hydrothermal vents.

The verdict is yours as to whether these worms are the actual ones found in hell. However, remember there are worms in hell as stated in the bible and as testified by those who have gone there and back and their work is to torment the lost souls.

According to the book of Isaiah and Mark, there are worms found in hell. The bible says in the book of Acts that Herod was eaten by worms even before he died. Could these worms that attacked Herod be the ones found in hell? Where did the worms suddenly come from? Note that the worms ate him before he gave up his ghost.

In both the Pacific and the Atlantic Oceans, there are places where hot magma under the surface of the sea floor causes cracks in the Earth’s crust. Sea water seeps into these holes, only to be forced out as mineral rich, warmed geysers into the cold, oxygen rich, deep ocean water. These unique springs are known as hydrothermal vents.

The interior of the earth fits the description of hell, because it is HOT there. Luke 16:22-24 says, “And it came to pass, that the beggar died, and was carried by the angels into Abraham’s bosom: the rich man also died, and was buried; And in hell he lift up his eyes, being in torments, and seeth Abraham afar off, and Lazarus in his bosom. And he cried and said, Father Abraham, have mercy on me, and send Lazarus, that he may dip the tip of his finger in water, and COOL MY TONGUE; FOR I AM TORMENTED IN THIS FLAME.”

The interior of the earth fits the description of hell, because it is described as a LAKE (the earth being a molten lake of lava, fits perfectly with the hot, dark, lake of fire). Revelation 19:20 says, “And the beast was taken, and with him the false prophet that wrought miracles before him, with which he deceived them that had received the mark of the beast, and them that worshipped his image. These both were CAST ALIVE INTO A LAKE OF FIRE BURNING WITH BRIMSTONE.”  Revelation 20:10 says, “And the devil that deceived them was CAST INTO THE LAKE OF FIRE AND BRIMSTONE, where the beast and the false prophet are, and shall be tormented day and night for ever and ever.”   Revelation 20:14, 15 says, “And death and hell were CAST INTO THE LAKE OF FIRE. This is the second death.  And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was CAST INTO THE LAKE OF FIRE.”

The Bible says that hell is enlarging herself. That is a fact. The Bible speaks of hell as being down, and of heaven as being up.  That is a fact.   The center of the earth has the characteristics of hell: darkness, heat, fire, etc.  God might be using the center of the earth for hell right now.  Job 28:5 says, “As for the earth, out of it cometh bread: and UNDER IT IS TURNED UP AS IT WERE FIRE.”

I am sure there are many more verses about this subject, and if you have found some, please add them to this post, or if you disagree about where the fire and heat are coming from, please share your thoughts also.

 

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The Best of Times, The Worse of Times

Each life is beautiful and for a purpose that no one knows at the beginning but as and when we go through life, we grow through life as well because we are tested each time we try to take a step ahead. This is the basic phenomenon of nature or in other words, this is how God tests the righteousness of a person. Each religion calls this statement in a different way but the underlying meaning remains same which is simple and yet hard to explain.

Each life is to experience different phenomena during its course and it depends upon that particular individual if he/she wants to treat it as the testing times or the good times. Good times are a relative term. For example, Nina had two apples, and for some reason she had to let go one apple and she is left with just one. Now Nina is sad and feels that she is going through her bad times. However, she doesn’t realise that she could have been in a situation where she would not even had one and she would have been required to struggle for that one apple and when she would have achieved that, she would have been overwhelmed because at that time the testing times would have been the times of struggle when she was trying to get that one apple and the result of those testing times was that fruit. This applies to almost all the situations in our lives.

There is nothing called a good life or a bad life. When God creates His beings, he sets a course for each one of them and each entity has to go through different phases in life, some can be termed as good and others can be termed as bad depending upon the impact they create in our lives. Generally, the events that we want to happen in our lives are termed as good and the ones that we do not want are classified as bad but what we fail to realise is that God is the superpower. He is omnipresent and knows everything. We are mere human beings and at times do not understand the relevance of good or bad in our lives but God can never be unkind to any of His children. He will definitely test you to see if you deserve that particular thing but would never deprive you of what you deserve.

 

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Where did we go wrong

We take prayer out of our schools and I don’t hear any arguments or discussions about it, and I am very upset with our Christian community and even our pastors, because of not fighting for the right to bring prayer back to our schools. If there are people who don’t want to pray, that is their right to not do so, yet here we are arguing about taking down the confederate flag. If this flag represent the right for others to own slaves, why in the world would it be allowed on any state building, regardless of how many people have died for the right to fly the flag. Yes, people have the right to have and fly that flag in their homes or front yard, but it should never be on, in, around or over any government building.

And now the Supreme Court have ruled that Males can marry Males and Females can marry Females. I believe a marriage should be between a Male and Female only. And let me make it clear, I am not against Gay or Homosexual people. I believe that everyone has the right under our laws to designate who to leave whatever they may have when death is near, or to have someone be able to sign whatever papers that need to be signed when they are incapacitated. What you do in your bedroom or in your mind is between you and God, but I also know what the Bible says, Jesus said in Mark 10:6-9 ” At the beginning of creation, God make them Male and Female, (7) For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife., (8) and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. (9) Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

I believe Children receive better balance in life on how to become men and women when there is a male and a female in the home. Unfortunately in to many homes today, the males are missing and I believe that some of that has lead to where we are today.

Same sex marriage may sound good to some, but that doesn’t make it right in the sight of God. The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 7:2- But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each women her own husband.

Let me also make it clear that it is not only the homosexual that will not get into heaven. Listen to what it says in 1 Corinthians 6: 9-10- Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived, neither the sexually immoral nor the idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders (10) nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. So what the Supreme Court did was not a blessing as many may think, according to God. God loves each and everyone of us, and He wants us to repent of our sins and trust and have faith that He will forgive us and bless us with whatever our needs are according to His glory. There are no big sins or small sins in the eyes of God, a sin is a sin so I am not saying that being homosexual is at the top of the sin list. A person who constantly tells lies, or someone who steals a dollar is just as guilty as the bank robber, a sin is a sin and we are all sinful but because of God’s grace and mercy He will forgive us if we confess our sins and repent from them.

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The Homeless

If you need help or know someone that is in need, there is help out there, please contact,

The Homeless Ministry of Brooksville Inc.

“Giving a hand up not a hand out”

Rodney Dyess (352-593-0859

24 Natelle Ave.

Brooksville, Fl. 34601

www.thmob.org

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Poem

REBIRTH
Winter destroys and brings lifelessness.  All the beautiful colors are gone.
Even the brown
leaves have disappeared.  Bare limbs are all that remain.  Months
pass by and labor is beginning.  From the ground green sprouts emerge.
Foliage has been restored.
Fragrant flowers adorn gardens and fields.  Birds sing their harmonious
songs.  Fruitfulness is
springing forth all over the earth.  Showers from heaven quenches the
thirsty soul. Sprayed is the soil
with radiant beams of sun.  Natures
debt has now been paid.  The sting
has been removed from death.
Renewed once more is the precious gift of life.

By Debbie Bullock

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Another Dream

I had another dream last night. In this dream once again, I don’t know where it came from or the meaning, but I will attempt to guess its meaning.

In the dream I was playing in a baseball game and I was on the team in the field. One of the players on the other team was up at bat. When the pitch was delivered, this batter hit the ball so hard that the ball went way over the outer fence for what looked like a home run, but the next thing that I saw was a huge wind storm that came, and the ball that he hit was caught up in the wind storm and all I could do was to watch that same ball make a u-turn and come back over the same fence and land into the glove of my team player for an out.

When I woke up from that dream I thought about its meaning, and I thought about how many people including some Christian think that everything that they are doing or have done that has turned out good, that it will always be that way, and never think that one day it will be reversed, because it wasn’t done for the good of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and this verse came to my mind.

Matthew 7:21-23- Jesus Said, “ not everyone who says to me, LORD, LORD, will enter the kingdom of Heaven,  (22) many will say to me on that day, Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and in your name drive out demons and perform many miracles? (23) Then I will tell them plainly, I never knew you. Away from me, you evil doers.”

If you have a  different interpretation please feel free to share it with me and others.

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Voice of an Angel

This young girl is the kind of role model that we need our girls looking up to.  She has an amazing voice but that is not all. If you visit her Facebook Page ( Click Here) You see see that she is more in touch with God then most adults are.

You can see more of her videos and listen to her song by clicking the view source link